Holistic Health and Happiness
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magine a truck stuck under a bridge just because the truck was a little bit higher than what the bridge would allow. The police came, and a towing truck came. They tried to pull back the truck that was stuck, but it wouldn't move; it was seriously stuck. Neither the police nor the towing people knew what to do.
How many times have you been stuck in a life situation and you didn't know if you should pull forward trying to pass through or pull back? You are stuck and you don't know what to do. And do you know that there is a simple solution to it, but usually we don't think about it?
In the case of a truck being stuck, you can let some of the air in the tires out, and then the truck can easily pull forward or backward. In the case of being stuck in a life-situation, you can let some of the air of your ego out and then you are not stuck any more - you can move in either direction. But you need to be ready for the change, i.e. to trim some of your ego. Are you ready for the change?
I was surprised that he agreed with me, but probably after she left him he had already done some thinking on his own that something needs to be done for things to change. He promised he would do his best to change. They started seeing each other again and going dancing together - something they both loved. But saying is easier than doing. She was telling me that he would try his best to be positive for a couple of days, but then he would drift again to his negative state. When she would point out that he was negative again, he would try to be positive for a couple of days and then drift again to his normal negative state, etc. This went on for two years until they finally divorced officially.
Now, about the menopause and the role it plays. Menopause is a hormonal re-balancing, which the body needs to do in addition to the everyday regular job. This puts the body in a state of stress. Then any additional life-stress comes on the top of this stress (of hormonal re-balancing). For that reason, the body says no to any additional life stress. These two women lived under the stress of tyranny of their husbands for a long period of time (25 and 20 years respectively), but they couldn't tolerate it any more during their menopause. Should we blame the menopause or blame the husbands? What do you think?
Here is another situation of being stuck, but finding a way to get out of the situation. Old donkey was in a stuck situation. The owner of the old donkey wanted to get rid of it by dropping it in an old well and burying it with sand. In this way he would get rid of both, the old donkey and the old well. He dropped the donkey in the well and started throwing sand in it, but after each shovel of sand the donkey shook it down from its back and stepped on it. This continued until the well was filled with sand and the only thing the donkey needed to do was to step out of the well.
The owner of the old donkey got rid of the old well, but not of the old donkey. "If the donkey is so smart", the owner thought, "it deserve to live" and he let the donkey go.
Are you as smart as the old donkey? When somebody is trying to throw dirt on you, are you accepting it with dignity, shaking it off your back, and stepping on top of it, or you would rather get offended, chose to fight back, loose a lot of energy, and remain in the pit where you were? It is a question of choice. And once you have made the choice to be as smart as the old donkey, a personality change must follow your choice.
We are talking here about the necessity to change and keep changing. Do you know what happens when water stops moving. Living water is moving water. Water that does not move becomes stagnated and all kind of germs start to thrive in it. Such water is not good for drinking because it will make you sick. Do you know that even your aura can become stagnated (with dark spots) if you didn't make any changes in your personality for a long time?
Just like with the living water, if you want your aura to shine with luminous energy, accept changes in your life, which will bring renovation. Your aura requires changes to be bright and shiny, just like your body needs exercise to feel energized. If you don't exercise, your muscle tonus goes down and after a while you loose your health. Thus, we are meant to continually keep changing (as we need to keep exercising the body). Do you want more proof of it?
Many things are happening in our life - some of them good, some of them bad. Do you consider the bad things in your life as a learning lesson? If you do, please remember that every life lesson requires a change. Why to learn, if not to apply the learned in life? Are you ready to change yourself after every lesson you have learned? Then based on life experience you will continually keep changing and improving all the time.
Consider each bad experience first as a challenge and then as a learning lesson and learning requires correctional changes in your life and behavior. If you do this, then you will be ready to move to the next level of understanding in life.
But if you consider the bad experiences as a punishment from God because of your sinful nature, you will get stuck in guilt and fear as a donkey stuck in mud. Are you asking: "Why me, oh God? Why am I the one stuck in the mud, what I have done?"
There is no punishing God. You will find a punishing God only in the Old Testament, but not in the New Testament of the Christian Bible. Jesus wouldn't have been prosecuted if he were preaching what was in the Old Testament. Jesus died on the cross for abolishing the Old Testament. Do you still believe in the Old Testament that God is punishing?
Jesus was teaching that the Supreme God is a loving God (not a punishing God), and he created us in his image to love, forgive, and help each other (not to be punishing each other). God gave us freedom of choice, but he put in our hardware the necessity to be good, and if we choose to go the bad way (the way of Satan instead of God's way), we suffer the consequences. So, we shouldn't blame God but blame ourselves for the choices in life we have made.
And we need to respect the freedom of choice our children are entitled to, our friends are entitled to, our neighbors are entitled to, and everybody around us is entitled to. We need to respect each other and never ever be judgmental because we judge from the level of our incompetence.
Let us take an example. On TV, a case was brought to our attention about a woman that left her children in the car and pushed the car into the river. I have heard a lot of American women saying: "Execute her! How she can do such a terrible thing to her children?" We are judgmental and we judge from the level of our incompetence.
And I will tell you: this woman is not guilty for what she did. How do I know? Pregnancy requires hormonal re-balancing, which the body needs to do in addition to its everyday job. The hormonal re-balancing is an extra job considered by the body as an extra stress. If the body is exposed to external stress during pregnancy, usually the hormonal re-balancing cannot be done properly. Then the clinical practice shows that such women can experience anger to their children up to the point of killing them. Are these women guilty for what they did or should we blame their husbands for pushing them over the limit (if we need to blame somebody for the situation they were put in).
Can you see? At the beginning you were ready to blame these women for killing their children, now you are ready to blame their husbands for stressing them to the edge. But maybe if you knew that the husbands were under the stress of losing their jobs, pressed to the edge by their bosses, you would be blaming their bosses. So, please don't judge the next time! Probably, there are things you don't know. Are you ready for the change to not judge the next time?
Does change allow us to stay on top of life? Let us take as an example the story about a frog dropped in milk. A frog was dropped in milk in a vessel with tall and slippery walls. The situation looked disparate for the frog. There was no way out. But the frog decided, I am not going to give up, I will keep moving, and it kept moving until a lump of butter was formed and the frog climbed on top of it.
Do you keep moving even in the most desperate situation expecting that the miracle of a lump of butter would appear under you or are you going to give up and drown in the milk? Don't give up! Keep moving and keep changing because this is the way to stay on top of life. Good luck!
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